Full Of Fail

Didn't manage to finish my 2nd short challenge which was to finish my sample database exam. Could only go through half of it. After that, I could not for my life concentrate on it anymore. Duh. Oh well.

Second fail is.. well, I read something that really irritated me today. I read a note on Facebook, which was a copy paste from a forwarded e-mail. Basically, it writes down how this one woman was a director of a multinational company. She said that she neglected her family and her children paid more attention and cared more about their maid than they did to her, and that she failed the signs that lead her daughter to drugs and death due to overdose.

So in conclusion.. she said she has failed her responsibility as a wife and as a mother and warns us to prioritize according to what really is the most important.

Don't get me wrong, I did think she chose the overall course of action. Neglecting your children and not noticing something's wrong with them equals to bad parenting. However, what bothered me was how the conclusion and the comment seemed to put the onus on the woman. Which is: it is the wife's responsibility to ensure family life is OK and to look after the children. And don't get me started on comments that leaned towards "woman should know that their nature is in being a good wife and a good mother".

It's just that.. looking over your family is the responsibility of both of the parents, y'know? It's not just the woman who has to be the proper 'wife' and the proper 'mother'. It's also the guy who has to be the proper 'husband' and the proper 'father' as well. And I'm not just talking about bringing in the money to feed them. But also in times having to cook or wash the dishes or take care of households, and know what his kids are up to, when are their dentist appointments, and so on.

Therefore it irritates me that it seems like everything associated to children and family and the house is the wife's sole responsibility. And that it's a bad thing if a woman wants a career and not a life solely centered around her family.

The content in the e-mail? The woman was at fault, no doubt about it. But the conclusion should not be "women should prioriotize their family more than their work" but "people should prioritize their family more than their work".